We're taught to live our lives from the outside in.
It begins with our parents and education system, gets layered with health class, media, movies and porn. We see something out there that we want, or we’re told that something out there is the right thing to be or become or move toward.
Rarely – if ever – does anyone to dare to encourage us to live life and discover ourselves from the inside out.
Get ready to turn what you’ve learned about sex inside out. To contact your self and use your internal experience as the guideposts, so that rather than enacting sex from the outside in, you are moving from the inside – from your sensations, impulses, desires, and needs. And get ready to know and understand your body, inside and out.
Of course, Sex Inside Out is about sex, but here’s the thing: how you do one thing is how you do everything. If you begin to live this part of your life, this most central, close-to-the-source of your life-force and creativity part, from the inside out, the rest of your life will fall in line.
Over 10 weeks (dates below) we'll cover anatomy of arousal, hands on ways to cultivate and experience more pleasure and to connect with yourself and/or your partner, ways to move past the stories and the shame we've inherited from our culture, embodiment, communication, and more.
You'll come away with a deepened connection with yourself your body, your pleasure, and your desire; confidence and curiosity that will lead you into the sexual life that you long for; basic information that everyone should have about their bodies and how they work; resources to come back to when you get stuck, confused, or lose touch (you will!).
Sex Inside Out is not just about information. Yes, we will give you knowledge that we think is essential, but the core of what we are teaching is a different way of being in the world. This will require practice, patience, and time.
What you'll get:
Ten 30 to 60-minute video/audio lessons delivered one week at a time
Guided audio practices and PDFs you can utilize potentially for the rest of your life
Ten 60-minute group coaching sessions where you can ask questions, get support from us, and share what's happening for you
A secret Facebook Group to connect between sessions, share discoveries, challenges, wins, and celebration
Dates + Times
Video/Audio lessons will land in your inbox: (you can watch/listen at any time)
- January 11th
- January 18th
- January 25th
- February 1st
- February 8th
- October 12th
- October 19th
- October 26th
- November 2nd
- November 9th
Live Group Coaching Calls:
All calls 10 am Pacific / 11 am Mountain / 12 pm Central / 1 pm Eastern
- January 17th
- January 24th
- January 31st
- February 7th
- February 14th
- October 18th
- October 25th
- November 1st
- November 8th
- November 15th
Sex Inside Out is for anyone who wants to...
- Grow and deepen their experience of their sex and pleasure
- Learn about anatomy of arousal and all the different things we can do with it
- Connect with themselves and their bodies more deeply
- Rid themselves of layers of shame and stories that are holding them back from knowing and experiencing what they really want
- Figure out what's really possible when we connect with ourselves and live from the inside out
- Join a community of people on this path, reclaiming their sexuality and pleasure for themselves
Ready to sign up?
Sign up before September 18th to get $70 off the full price:
Not sure? Or have questions? Shoot us an email and we'll get back to you :)
Who We Are
Yes, I'm a trained psychotherapist who has specialized in relationships and intimacy for over 20 years now, but that's not what I really want to say here (you can go to my web page for that).
When I was 22 years old, I was given a vision of my path. That path focused on:
invoking, provoking, creating, and changing women’s culture.
What I saw, but didn’t understand at the time, is that our relationship to our bodies, our sexuality, and our pleasure is one of the easiest ways to really know ourselves. It is my fastest route to experiencing embodiment, safety, and engaging my power.
For 10 years I ran away from my vision because I was chicken. No one was going to give me permission to do this, and I was scared of the breadth of change I knew would abound from this work. I was scared of rocking the boat, of becoming an outspoken feminist, of becoming an activist. I was intimidated and shaken by others' versions of women's work that only contributed to the unhealthy culture. But underneath all those fears was my fear of betraying the covert agreements I had with the overculture to be a good girl/daughter/wife/mother/homemaker/fill-in-your-feminine-cultural-role here. On top of that, my first instinct was to tend to other’s pleasure and comfort. My own pleasure felt elusive, ever-changing, and confusing, so I avoided it, and I kept myself from being whole.
Then, at 37, I got pregnant. When I found out I was going to have a girl, I cried with overwhelm and concern. How could I bring a girl into a world where women don’t know how to be whole? How can I parent this girl into a different relationship with herself if I, and almost everyone I know, is still burying our heads in shame and fear of our own bodies, pleasure, and sexual freedom? The news that I was bringing another generation of woman into this world had me look around again and see the consequences of shying away from my vision, the consequences of shame, secrecy, avoidance, playing nice, and not rocking the boat. I thought, "If this is my behavior, and the behavior of every man, and woman I know, who will be my daughter’s mentor, wise elder, and council when she needs it? How can I possibly hold the larger vision of her own becoming, of her true wholeness, when I am not really doing my own work?"
My ass got kicked into giving a shit. I realized that my happiness, my freedom, and my daughter's life depended on it. I opened myself up to exploring, I found a dear friend who was doing this work and willing to mentor me, and I discovered that my body held a treasure-trove of pleasure. Experiencing my erotic embodiment helped me in ways that permitted me to let go of old paradigms and evolve into myself. This changed everything for me. No longer was I waiting for permission to be me; I felt more free, more sovereign. Each piece of this exploration helped put me back together to feel more whole, and I was finally coming into integrity with my own body, my wellness, and my vision for healthy women’s culture.
Fast forward seven years and I’m writing this to you, after working with countless men and women to help them arrive into their embodied wholeness. I'm so happy to work with people who are ready to give themselves permission to have the life that they never knew was possible.
And here I am today, inviting you into yourself like never before; inviting you to give a shit about yourself as if the world depended on it, because it does.
No one ever told me that sex was about pleasure.
Connection, yes. Making babies, got it. But pleasure? Fun? A way to express the many sides of myself, learn more about myself, a portal into altered states of consciousness? All of that was whitewashed away in ignorance fear, embarrassment, misunderstandings, and shame.
I'm not blaming anyone in particular for this; it is systemic, the water we swim in.
The journey to where I stand now, a Certified Sexological Bodyworker and Somatic Sex Educator, was a winding and meandering one. Undergraduate studies in college lead to a degree, taught me to think for myself, and revealed that most of the questions I was interested in asking would not be answered – perhaps could not even be asked – in the ivy covered halls of academia.
Twenty-two years spent in gymnastics facilities, as both athlete and coach, taught me much about the body, its mechanics, its beauty and grace. I learned of sacrifice and devotion, pain and frustration, triumph and failure, friendship and betrayal. I learned what humans need to relax into and trust another to catch them as they hurl their bodies through the air, while refining a capacity to look deeply into complexity and find and name the simple adjustment that can change everything.
Deep dives into the relational practice of Circling, Zen Meditation, and Women’s Culture and Community, along with medicine journeys and soul work, slowly peeled back layers to reveal the truth that had perhaps existed all along: Sex is my work.
As a kid and teenager, my sexual education consisted of, “wait until you’re married,” followed up with alarming information about STIs and the basics of reproduction. Nothing about pleasure or the complexities of intimate relationships. I felt profoundly alone when it came to sex and relationships, and totally mystified. I’d explored my own body enough to know what felt good, and I’d had a few lovers that had opened doors to new sexual pleasure for me, but I had a feeling more was possible if only I knew where to look – or touch.
Three years ago, a dear friend and mentor of mine began putting together a group of women – The Women’s Temple – to explore erotic arts together. We gathered monthly to not only talk about our sexuality, but to work hands on with one another, to witness one another, and to be in our pleasure together. The combination of information, community, and guidance transformed my sexuality, and my entire life.
I came out of that two-year experience deeply rooted in my body, connected to my pleasure, sensuality, and sexuality, able to communicate about sex with partners in new ways, and with some key resources and practices that continue to expand my sexuality to this day. I also came away with a deep capacity to meet the intensity of my life head on, to tend to my needs and desires, to metabolize grief, anger, and suffering, and with an unshakable trust in the world and my place in it.
Sex is my work, but it's about way more than that. It's about sex and pleasure as a doorway into knowing ourselves and the world. It's about bringing our sex out into the light and sharing it in safe and thoughtful ways in service of understanding, expanding, and healing all sides of it.
More than sex, my work is about seeing and being seen. It's about going into the dark, hidden, secret places in people's hearts, minds, and bodies, and bringing love, compassion, and care. I create space for people to welcome and experience all of themselves. To move into the grief and the pleasure, the heartbreak and the joy without hesitation.