Join me in discovering your unique pathways to pleasure...
I’m lying in bed as I write this: Candles burning, warm tea by my side, loungewear, purring feline, sleeping canine. I figure, if I’m going to teach you anything about pleasure, it’s best to be residing in mine.
As a kid and teenager, my sexual education consisted of, “wait until you’re married,” followed up with alarming information about STIs and the basics of reproduction. Nothing about pleasure or the complexities of intimate relationships. I felt profoundly alone when it came to sex and relationships, and totally mystified. I’d explored my own body enough to know what felt good, and I’d had a few lovers that had opened doors to new sexual pleasure for me, but I had a feeling more was possible if only I knew where to look – or touch.
Three years ago, a dear friend and mentor of mine began putting together a group of women – The Women’s Temple – to explore erotic arts together. We gathered monthly to not only talk about our sexuality, but to work hands on with one another, to witness one another, and to be in our pleasure together. The combination of information, community, and guidance transformed my sexuality, and my entire life.
I came out of that two-year experience deeply rooted in my body, connected to my pleasure, sensuality, and sexuality, able to communicate about sex with partners in new ways, and with some key resources and practices that continue to expand my sexuality to this day. I also came away with a deep capacity to meet the intensity of my life head on, to tend to my needs and desires, to metabolize grief, anger, and suffering, and with an unshakable trust in the world and my place in it.
Pathways to Pleasure brings together all of the elements that made The Women’s Temple so transformative for me – clear and simple information about pleasure and anatomy, guidance, practice, and permission, and a community of women devoted to exploring and telling the truth about their sexual pleasure and themselves – in an accessible, easy to digest, virtual format. We won't touch one another, do any live demonstrations, or self-pleasure together, but we will share the intimate details of our experiences.
In the 10 weeks that I’m inviting you to explore your pleasure, I won’t shame or should you. I won’t be telling you how frequently you should be coming, or what kind of orgasms you should or could experience. I won’t tell you the best way to touch yourself, or share with you the one magic secret to unlock your deepest sexual pleasure.
That’s not what I’m up to.
Instead, I will offer you maps and guides to facilitate your own explorations into the wild territory of your pleasure. We'll include your self, your soma (body), your sex, and your soul. I’ll encourage you to ask questions, follow your curiosity, and set up experiments so that you can uncover the deep pleasure that lives in you. You’ll get to share your experiences, frustrations, excitement, shame, and pleasure in a closed group of like-minded women.
This is about so much more than sex. It's about the cultivation of our sexual, generative, creative, life-force. The radical reclaiming of our bodies and our pleasure. We need this. Our relationships need this. The world needs this.
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Maps and Guides
As women, we barely know the territory of our bodies and our pleasure. I’ll share with you the full magic of our anatomy of arousal. There’s so much more going on down there than your clitoris and your vagina. So. Much. More.
Practices + Experiments
We tend to touch ourselves the same way, every time. Self-Pleasuring is one of the most habituated behaviors in our repertoire. Our pathways to pleasure are wired in our brains and our bodies, and it can be challenging and frustrating to expand them. If you want to experience more pleasure with yourself and with partners, you have to start changing it up! We’ll explore different ways to contact your anatomy of arousal, and to incorporate breath and movement into your pleasure so that you can expand the depth and breadth of your pleasure map.
This is the part of this course that has me most excited, and that has the most potential for transformation. In my personal journey, sexual and otherwise, nothing has had a bigger impact than community. Sharing these experiences, witnessing friends in their pleasure, seeing what it is they do with their bodies, hearing them describe it, and then getting to ask them questions about it changed everything. Having people other than lovers touch my body, offering suggestions and opportunities, reminding me to breathe, and showing me the way through experiences I might have backed away from opened doors and pathways to pleasure that I didn’t even know existed. While this course is virtual, and we won’t be self-pleasuring together, or touching one another, the act of sharing our experiences and curiosities will be nothing short of revolutionary.