You know sex can be so much more...
What would what your life be like if desire were sacred, sex was delightful, and you fully understood the transformative potential of sex, connection, and pleasure?
Imagine if you could have what you wanted.
As a Somatic Sex Educator, with hundreds of hours of training and practice in sexuality, relationship, awareness, and communication, I am uniquely positioned to work with you in ways that can bring holistic healing and insight, allowing for deep growth and transformation, and opening the door to the myriad pleasures available through the body.
Talking about your challenges with sexuality can only take you so far. By combining mind-based discussion and insight with somatic awareness and hands-on work, I can show you the way into a shame-free, liberated expression of your unique erotic nature and desires. In our work together, we will explore the breadth and depth of your sexuality: from the nuts and bolts of anatomy and arousal, through shame and trauma, and into the freedom of sexual sovereignty and integrated expression.
You likely had some version of sex ed in school, but chances are, you were given more in depth information about prime numbers than you were about sex.
And what you were given was desultory at best:
a naming of parts and their function as it relates to reproduction; horrifying pictures and descriptions of STIs; a fear-based acknowledgment that the only way to prevent STIs and pregnancy is abstinence.
Where was the teaching about pleasure? How to give it? And receive it?
What about consent? Boundaries? Where to go for help if things aren't working the way they are supposed to?
And the deeper layers? How to be with a partner, to ask for what you want, to see what’s possible and available beyond what we see in movies, and pornography?
Somatic Sex Education is interactive, experiential, body-based guidance for the entire spectrum of your sexuality.
The main focus of SSE is on your relationship to your Soma, or body, and we will continually return to the experience that you are having in your body right now.
SSE can incorporate bodywork that includes the entire body – even your genitals and anus – for the purposes of education, healing, integration, awareness, pleasure, and more. In sessions, I remain fully clothed, and touch is one way: from me to you. This is to keep the focus on you, and your experience, learning, and pleasure.
A typical 90-minute session
begins with a short body-based meditation, a check-in to see where you are at and where you’ve been, followed by co-created experiential practices that can include witnessing, guided exercises, and touch from me to you.
People come to me because they are experiencing some kind of problem or challenge in their sexuality:
You’re wanting more, your needs aren’t being met.
You find that you don’t want to have sex with your partner, or you don’t have a partner to explore your sexuality with.
You rely on porn or other underground methods to get your sexual needs met.
Your partner has a lower sex drive than you do, and you find it frustrating and don’t know how to talk about it, or if it means the two of you are incompatible.
You want to please your partner sexually and don’t know how.
You find that you have a layer of shame and embarrassment around sexuality.
You're questioning your sexuality, orientation, gender.
You’re struggling with erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation.
Desires and fantasies you don’t understand or don’t want
Inability to talk to or have sex with women
A lack of desire for your partner
You're experiencing a lack of desire
Pain with intercourse
Scar tissue from childbirth
Inability to orgasm
Feeling unable to meet your partner's sex drive
Wishing your partner had a stronger sex drive
Not knowing what you want, or how to express it
How to self-pleasure, and why it’s essential
Sex after childbirth
Guilt and feelings of sadness post-abortion
You’re struggling to communicate with one another
The spark isn’t there anymore
Sex after children?
You have a great relationship on all fronts, and you aren’t having sex
One of you wants to try something new and the other is not on board
Sex has become all about having children
You want to explore, or are exploring, non-Monogamous, open, and other unconventional relationships
You might also come with...
Low energy and vitality
A general sense of stuckness
No matter what you come to the door with, we will uncover the deeper layers. Rather than staying on the surface and working with the “symptoms” you are experiencing, we will go to the heart of the matter so that we can enact real and lasting change and transformation, trusting and harnessing the wisdom and intelligence in your body to unlock the answers to your questions and solutions to your problems.
We will work together to form concrete goals to guide our exploration, tracking them as we go along to make sure we are meeting them, adjusting them as we uncover more.
Come expecting to participate. Your wholehearted engagement is crucial and necessary. I will not be doing things to you; this is not an opportunity to zone out, fade away, and escape. Instead it is an opportunity to show up, perhaps more than you have before.
The pace is yours. There is no one way to do this, no right way, no wrong way. Only your way.
You'll come away with...
Vitality, energy, and aliveness.
More sensation and pleasure.
More options, choices, opportunities.
A complete understanding of the anatomy of pleasure and arousal.
A broader knowing of the role of erotic and sexual energy and pleasure in your life.
A grounded understanding of your erotic energy as the source of your creativity and generativity.
An integration of your sexuality and erotic energy with your body, heart, and mind.
You will feel at home in your body and connected to yourself.
You’ll know what you want, and be able to ask for it.
You’ll feel a deeper freedom in your sexual expression.
We Can Explore:
Consent and Boundaries
Fantasies and Desires
Anatomy of Arousal and Pleasure
Mapping Sensation and Pleasure
Things you haven’t found space to explore in your intimate relationships
Soul encounter through the doorway of your sexuality
And so much more
Ready to take the next step? Send me an email to start a conversation about what's possible.